tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post8047570704083715924..comments2023-05-24T06:02:04.476-06:00Comments on ON MY OWN: What Would You DoBerniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-1109836382240748182009-09-08T13:16:30.860-06:002009-09-08T13:16:30.860-06:00Hi Barb, you are so kind with your comments....As ...Hi Barb, you are so kind with your comments....As much as I dislike the word I have to say it, I know her post were mostly all lies. She needs much more help than I can possibly give but I can offer prayers......Luv ya, HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-32899372443141595392009-09-08T12:30:38.565-06:002009-09-08T12:30:38.565-06:00Dear Bernie,
You have a bottomless heart but lucki...Dear Bernie,<br />You have a bottomless heart but luckily also finely-tuned instincts. Your advise to this person rings true. However, her responses and even her postings may actually be lies. You are a "giver" who sends positive vibes to others. Apparently she is a "taker" whose bottomless need creates negative vibes. Your prayers for this soul are the very best you can do for her.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984171407726520584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-59275111035224724522009-09-08T00:27:49.670-06:002009-09-08T00:27:49.670-06:00Kay, thank you....perhaps I am a professional frie...Kay, thank you....perhaps I am a professional friend as that is a passion of mine....I so love people of all cultures, creeds, faith, and ages. I have been blessed to make many new friends blogging and they mean very, very much to me....Luv ya....:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-63025283724710090582009-09-08T00:15:47.291-06:002009-09-08T00:15:47.291-06:00some people are sick beyond our assistance, you sa...some people are sick beyond our assistance, you said it yourself 'seek professional help' are you a professional? (although, I think you are):) but the responsibility does not lie in your hands. Rest easy, my friend, you did the right thing.Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17353317664100788614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-37124571357813748722009-09-07T22:23:44.524-06:002009-09-07T22:23:44.524-06:00Hi Brenda, I did what I thought was the right thin...Hi Brenda, I did what I thought was the right thing and from my comments and e-mails so has everyone else.....she has contacted many others as well so I wasn't as alone as I thought I was. So sad really, this lady needs many prayers.....:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-71791246380832039732009-09-07T22:08:04.752-06:002009-09-07T22:08:04.752-06:00Do you remember the Bible story about Jesus at the...Do you remember the Bible story about Jesus at the Pool of Bethesda? Jesus asked the man, "Do you want to be healed?" The man answered, "yes" and was healed. Not everyone wants to be healed. Some actually want to wallow in the mire. There is no help for them until they want to be healed. You certainly were gracious and helpful but I beleive you are doing the right thing to erase those comments before they are published. Perhaps since you are using comment moderation, you can send them directly to the junk mail without having to read them at all. I hope so. Blessings on you.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03184372899826073461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-4181893536942852922009-09-07T21:57:50.226-06:002009-09-07T21:57:50.226-06:00Hi Garnet, you are very right I have made many pre...Hi Garnet, you are very right I have made many precious friends online, you included. It was time to let go and not feel any guilt over it, but she does still need our prayers...Luv ya.....:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-48702593714989818382009-09-07T21:56:24.463-06:002009-09-07T21:56:24.463-06:00Mary, thank you so much. It is so true....I just c...Mary, thank you so much. It is so true....I just cannot think for the life of me why anyone would spend so much time online making friends only to lie to them, it is something I wouldn't think of doing so I never thought anyone else would. I agree she really needs our prayers.<br />Love and many blessings....HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-86465237226884327062009-09-07T21:47:54.611-06:002009-09-07T21:47:54.611-06:00There are toxic people that come into our lives an...There are toxic people that come into our lives and you have to remove them or they will drag you down with them.<br /><br />I live in the boonies and, like you, my online friends are often the only ones I can turn to when I need help but I have had to let some go because they were draining me emotionally. The ones I kept are very precious to me.<br /><br /><br />That woman was lying if she said she could not get the help she needed. In the U.S. you can get that kind of help for nothing if you are jobless and go to the local mental health center. Like you, I lose patience with people who refuse to get the help if they really need it. If it is so bac why isn't she out getting a job instead of spening her time blogging? If she is so poor, how does the afford a computer?<br /><br />I think you did the right thing. You are way too kind to people.Garnetrosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09911448607956799034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-83315554356288424932009-09-07T21:46:09.985-06:002009-09-07T21:46:09.985-06:00Hello Brit, so nice to have you stop by and thank ...Hello Brit, so nice to have you stop by and thank you for your kind words....hope all is going well for you.....:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-83459103161592543382009-09-07T21:45:19.580-06:002009-09-07T21:45:19.580-06:00Hi Bernie, I came to thank you for your comment o...Hi Bernie, I came to thank you for your comment on my labor day blog...I couldn't have said it better myself. Then I read your post and all the comments. I have no idea who you're talking about, however, I have come across two in the last few days that shocked me with their horrible posts and comments. It almost made me want to quit blogging, so I wouldn't be upset by them again. I just want to say I agree with all the comments left on this issue...I think we tend to think that people are like us, responsible, hard working, etc., but then you find that they aren't all like that. The goodness in you gave it your all, but there isn't enough help for some people...what they need is the Lord, and nothing else can bring lasting change to their lives. The best help you can give her now is prayer. Take care, Bernie..you are precious!<br /><br />MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15369867469773842215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-26169631601198793822009-09-07T21:20:43.040-06:002009-09-07T21:20:43.040-06:00Hi Bernie,
Your absolutely wonderful comment on my...Hi Bernie,<br />Your absolutely wonderful comment on my Blog has lead me here to your wonderful Blog! Thank you so much for your wonderful words!!<br /><br />I too believe you did the right thing... I'm not saying that that person was a fraud but we have to be so careful in this virtual world... while there exists so many wonderful, caring and honest people there are also some people playing on the kind hearts and feelings of others to take whatever they can (be it donations, attention or help in other ways) While I know that many people can go through terrible things, as I have also experienced some awful stuff, what's the point in wallowing and complaining to others? life is here for us to live and as we all know every minute is precious as life can pass us by in the flash of an eye! <br /><br />I had a similar experience last year, someone who never stopped complaining and every message was depressing and hopeless, life had no hope, no way to go on... no matter how many positive thoughts or opinions I gave the person would hit me right back with endless negative problems and stories of remarkable happenings... I stopped contact in the end and deleted all my messages as it was beginning to make me depressed and I had enough problems of my own to cope with! I know that sounds heartless and I'm not heartless, I too am always willing to help someone whenever I can, but something just told me that the person was lying to get attention, it became obvious...<br />Definately you made the right decision, so don't feel bad!!<br /><br />Big Hugs for you lovely lady!! XX® ♫ The Brit ♪ ®https://www.blogger.com/profile/07774871861232164725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-66340040860898048282009-09-07T20:29:40.172-06:002009-09-07T20:29:40.172-06:00QMM, I received your e-mail and thank you for such...QMM, I received your e-mail and thank you for such wonderful advice.....:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-25504776199137734882009-09-07T20:28:50.951-06:002009-09-07T20:28:50.951-06:00Rose Marie, thank you very much. I also received m...Rose Marie, thank you very much. I also received many e-mails today today and a surprise to me was that she has contacted others as well and we all felt the same way. Most didn't want to comment on it as I feel they just don't want her or her negativatity around them...I don't blame them. Now me I always jump in with both feet but it is okay...I was able to get vent and get it out of my system. Have a great day my friend...HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-42282588951927229522009-09-07T19:23:23.049-06:002009-09-07T19:23:23.049-06:00So happy for the many comments validating the appr...So happy for the many comments validating the appropriateness of your actions. Feel marvelous - you deserve!!Rose Marie Raccioppihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12327247225256540829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-56855286104379582362009-09-07T14:59:12.300-06:002009-09-07T14:59:12.300-06:00Hi Choices, I am feeling better about not posting ...Hi Choices, I am feeling better about not posting her comment or leaving her one....I realize it was the right thing to.<br />Have a wonderful day my friend...Hugs.Berniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-27667543899230623362009-09-07T14:45:43.323-06:002009-09-07T14:45:43.323-06:00Guess I could have left a comment, but I sent you ...Guess I could have left a comment, but I sent you an e-mail.<br />QMM (Peggy)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-46257321904642345642009-09-07T13:57:17.352-06:002009-09-07T13:57:17.352-06:00Bernie,
You did the right thing. You did all you c...Bernie,<br />You did the right thing. You did all you could for her and tried to help. It doesn't seem like she really wants to change, but only complain. We can't make someone change, they need to do it themselves. You all do for her. Now it is up to her.<br />Take care and you really did do the right thing.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14228987428444754162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-53773405369556417092009-09-07T12:59:50.725-06:002009-09-07T12:59:50.725-06:00Jinksy, you are so right as usual, there are no la...Jinksy, you are so right as usual, there are no laws that rule blogland.....my heart and my conscious are the rules I follow and they have served me well so far. I have always been one to root for the underdog and always want to make everything better now that is living in fantasy world I know.....but I always loved happy endings. So sad that this lady is a train wreck and cannot be helped by me or perhaps anyone....take care my friend.....:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-57123504176907652282009-09-07T12:36:52.757-06:002009-09-07T12:36:52.757-06:00There is no law says we have to like every other b...There is no law says we have to like every other blogger, nor are we responsible for their choice of how to behave. We all have to choose such things for ourselves- don't feel guilty about your reaction to one who doesn't help herself.Jinksyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01686101468214361004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-69882883176414917282009-09-07T11:17:07.572-06:002009-09-07T11:17:07.572-06:00Val, I too have learned in my many years that ther...Val, I too have learned in my many years that there are people who are not happy nor would have anything to talk about if they couldn't complain....I feel they will never be happy and it is sad really....sometimes I just have to turn away and give the problem to the Good Lord. Stay well my friend, .....:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-23619075173625188242009-09-07T11:11:45.321-06:002009-09-07T11:11:45.321-06:00Janine, I have been thinking about you so much lat...Janine, I have been thinking about you so much lately that I just had to stop in....I am so happy you will be back soon, you have been so missed.<br />Thank you for your wonderful words, always loved and always missed my friend.....:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-58594040366567138022009-09-07T11:09:10.769-06:002009-09-07T11:09:10.769-06:00Hi Eileen, thank you for your voted of confidence,...Hi Eileen, thank you for your voted of confidence, hope you had a wonderful day my friend...HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-40931548435492496502009-09-07T11:08:02.267-06:002009-09-07T11:08:02.267-06:00A/C so true, I have to admit I did beat myself up ...A/C so true, I have to admit I did beat myself up a bit yesterday, I so hate turning away from someone in need....but this case was very different...something I hadn't experienced before and hope never too again. I will keep praying for them though.<br />Have a great day my friend....HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3332172694810833250.post-24549642007170859262009-09-07T11:04:20.917-06:002009-09-07T11:04:20.917-06:00Tranquility, thank you sweetie, you always are so ...Tranquility, thank you sweetie, you always are so thoughtful and your words ring true.<br />Please be careful as I wouldn't want her haunting you, she is a real drama queen and is badly in need of professional help.<br />Luv you........:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.com