Hello my friends, I had a day that still has me shaking my head.....I am wondering what has happened to the close unit of family. I have to believe that most families are still all about loving and caring for each other but there have been a few incidents that has caused me to question where has the compassion and even responsibility for parents, children even siblings gone.
Why this is on my mind tonight is that today after meeting my friends for a lunch which was great I had to stop at the drugstore to pick up my insulin and needles. While there an elderly lady was sitting down and I noticed she did not look well and so I asked her if she was okay.....she said she was dizzy and the pharmacist had taken her blood pressure which was very high so he was trying to contact her son to come and get her. I sat down beside her to keep her company until the pharmacist returned and told us that one of her sons was 2 hours away and asked him to call his brother who lived only about 5 minutes from the drugstore. He did this and was told that this son was very busy and if she couldn't walk home herself then the pharmacist should call an ambulance and have her taken to hospital as he would not be available until this evening......well this lady was 82 and as soon as the pharmacist mentioned the word ambulance her blood pressure went even higher. I could feel her heart beating so fast as I put my arm around her.....I got her drink of water as the pharmacist called the first son back who said yes to call an ambulance and he would meet her at the hospital as soon as he could. I would of drove her home, she only lived a short distance from the drug store but I was concerned she may have a heart attack, she said she had no pain but she had broken out into a sweat. My gosh I felt sorry for her. The pharmacist did call for an ambulance and I followed it to the hospital and stayed with her until her son arrived.... four hours later.....by this time they had given her medication and her blood pressure was almost normal and she said she was feeling fine. The doctor agreed she could go home as long as someone would be with her at least until tomorrow. I can still see her little button eyes filled with anxiety so I assured her I would stay with her until her son arrived. She held my hand even as she took a nap. When her son finally arrived he was curt with her and said he couldn't stay over night and she would have to call her niece. How sad she looked as she mumbled she would and thanked me for everything while her son barely noticed I was there, he may of thought I was working at the hospital but I still found him rude......one day he may find himself in the same position and I pray he will have someone to help him with a bit of compassion which he didn't show his mother. Anyway she gave me her phone number and I will call her tomorrow to see how she is feeling. I am still feeling angry at her only sons.....she raised them with love and sacrifice and they made her feel like a burden. She had told me they had changed a lot since her husband passed away 2 years ago and they hardly visited or called her, but she did say her niece was lovely and treated her well. I wish the pharmacist had called her niece but then he didn't know about her and when I asked her if she wanted me to call her she didn't have her phone number with her and couldn't remember where she worked.....
This isn't the first time I have seen a parent treated this way but I hope it is the last. I know there is much I don't know about this family and perhaps the sons have their own reasons for acting this way but in my opinion there is no excuse to treat a mother that way whatsoever, I don't care what she may or may not have done. She is 82 years old, sick and alone. Tonight I will pray for her and her family and all families that are divided including the divisions in my own family.
In all fairness I will say I know many more families that are kind and loving to each other than what I witnessed today but knowing even one family like this is one too many. A gentle word, a smile, and a genuine concern for each other is so much easier than what I saw today.
Just had to get this off my chest tonight as it is playing over and over in my mind and my heart is aching for this elderly lady who deserves to be loved.
Good Night and God Bless..........:-) Hugs