Hello my friends, was too tired/emotional to post last night.....but I did have a great sleep. I was up at 7 am as I had to go for blood test after fasting. Since I have to take my insulin I had to have a scheduled morning, something I don't like. I don't do mornings well!
I have told you about my neighbor's home being broken into. Last night, early evening really I took coffee and doughnuts over to them. I wanted to say hello and see how they were doing. What I found when my friend opened her door still haunts me.
I could tell she had been crying and was very upset. I passed her the coffee and told her I wouldn't come in, just wanted to let her know I was thinking of them. She insisted that I share the coffee (at this time I could of kicked myself for bringing a tray with 3 large cups on it) I assured her that I was fine and would visit on the weekend, but she wouldn't take no for an answer. As I sat down she started crying... I learned about the break in, in her and her husband's words and it broke my heart.
The police had found all their items at a pawn shop.....they then traced them to the thief....it was their own son. Apparently he is a drug addict and needed money. They had refused his request only a couple of days earlier as they were tired of his irresponsibility. They never thought for a moment he would break into their home. They also didn't realize how ill he really is. Their hearts were broken....and they were in the process of trying to decide what they should do. To have their items returned to them, they had to press charges. If they wanted their insurance company involved they had to press charges, to help their son they had to press charges. They didn't want their son to go to jail.....they wanted to help him instead. They didn't feel being in jail would do anything to help his drug problem, I have to say I agreed with this....they also wanted their property back. I felt I shouldn't be there, these were big decisions that had to be made among themselves....why would they want me to hear what they were saying, and what could I say or do to console them? I still don't know, I only listened and hugged them, assuring them that whatever decision they made would be the right one, they were the ones who had to live with this, not the police nor the insurance company. Their son in my opinion should be held accountable but I wasn't about to share that with them. They were in enough pain. I am still not sure what they decided to do, I will leave it to them to tell me, if anything, what their decision is.....even today I refused to discuss it with other neighbors.....it is a family problem and their business. I know they will resolve it the best way for them and their son and I will trust their decision always with the love and respect they so badly need right now.
This brings myself to question about trust. Love for your child never dies, but trust can and sadly does. How can that trust be rebuilt, can it even be rebuilt? I'm not sure but I pray for them, their son and their family. Trust is a special bond with anyone....it is not a given as love is....it has to be earned. I have learned this valuable lesson on a personal level. I don't know how not to love those in my life, I find it easy to give my love and share it unconditionally. Trust is another matter, there are those that have severed this wonderful gift I gave them, and I have to admit that I have yet to trust some people even today. I am not proud of this, I want to trust everyone but just because I want to doesn't mean I do. I realize it is human to let others down, we are not perfect. One can forgive by themselves but it takes more than one to have a relationship. I'm not sure if a relationship can survive without trust....it is something that I find myself working and praying on everyday. Will these parents ever be able to trust their son again? I don't know the answer, but I really want to believe this can happen.
Have a wonderful day my friends, may you always be surrounded by people you not only love but can always trust.
Am sending you all many, many hugs........:-)